Anxiety as an expensive habit
I’m not sure if this post by Ryan Holiday is just a form of (not-so) subtle marketing for his ‘Anxiety Medallion’ but he nevertheless makes some good points. Framing anxiety as his “most expensive habit,” Holiday talks about what anxiety “steals” from us.
Without wanting to wade too much into the nature vs nurture debate, I think it’s clear that genetics provides some kind of baseline level here. For me, that’s both incredibly frustrating (you can’t choose your ancestors!) but also somewhat liberating. I can’t remember where I learned to do so, but over the last 18 months or so I’ve started saying to myself “it’s all just chemicals in my brain.”
It doesn’t always work, of course, but along with good exercise and sleep routines — and ensuring my stress levels remain low — I manage to cope with it all. The hardest thing to explain to people is that anxiety doesn’t have to have an object. Existential angst, for example, isn’t just something that 19th century philosophers suffered from, but regular people in the here and now.
It’s not flashy, it’s not thrilling, and it doesn’t even provide the fleeting pleasures that other vices might. And yet, anxiety is a vice. A habit. A relentless one that eats away at your time, your relationships, and your moments of joy.
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Seneca tells us we suffer more in imagination than in reality. Anxiety turns the hypothetical into the actual. It drags us into a future that doesn’t yet exist and forces us to live out every worst-case scenario in vivid detail. The cost isn’t just mental. It’s physical. It’s emotional. It’s relational.
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Anxiety is expensive—not just in terms of the mental toll, but in the way it costs us our lives. Every minute spent consumed by worry is a minute lost.
Source: Ryan Holiday
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