Tag: Oliver Burkeman (page 1 of 2)

What if I never change?

Oliver Burkeman on Jocelyn K. Glei’s Hurrry Slowly is an absolute treat. In particular, he quotes Jim Benson on how we can easily become “a limitless reservoir for other people’s expectations”. I also liked the discussion around the “internalised capitalism” of “clock time”.

The title comes from an important point that Burkeman makes about so many of our hopes and dreams being based on somehow in the future being a radically different person to who we are now.

It reminded me of a section in Alain de Botton’s The Art of Travel in which he summarises Seneca by saying that the problem about going somewhere to escape things is that you always take yourself (and your mental/emotional baggage) with you…

Oliver Burkeman on why we try to control time, how perfectionism holds us back, and the problems with a “when-i-finally” mindset.

Source: Oliver Burkeman: What if I never change? | Hurry Slowly

Microcast #088 — Spontaneous fluctuations

Overview

In which I pick another three interesting items from my bookmarks to discuss.

Show notes


Image: Richard Horvath

Background music: Shimmers by Synth Soundscapes (aka Mentat)

More advice on perfectionism

A few years ago I read Anne Lamott’s Bird by Bird, which is even better than people say. I was reminded of this quotation via Oliver Burkeman’s Help! How to Become Slightly Happier and Get a Bit More Done.

Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy of the people. It will keep you cramped and insane your whole life… perfectionism is based on the obsessive belief that if you run carefully enough, hitting each stepping stone just right, you won’t have to die. The truth is that you will die anyway and that a lot of people who aren’t even looking at their feet are going to do a whole lot better than you.

Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird